my husband married another woman islam
Muslim girl, read the brothers comment carefully then make your comment. Shouldnt man and wife be friends, ask for eacothers opinion as Our Prophet(pbuh)did? Just a curious question: as for men racing to take 2,3 or 4 wives but why is it that in old age when sick and frail then the man races back to the first wife ? Its the second time in my life that the word second wife was mentioned to me. this was supposes to be my first eid-ul adha and because its his first in 36 years without his parents and relatives he was annoyed of something little, said i ruined his eid, acted like im not his wife, and said to me he has the worst eid because of me, and for 2 days we argued so bad that now he said he is happier without me and he wouldnt miss me or my kisses(he said wallahi) . And he rationed for each of the night and day. I have read that this contract is not allowed in Islam. May Allah bless us with good husbands. CULTURE, people mix Islam with their culture, Islam does not teach a man to not communicate with his wife. Chapter 4, Verse 34 2. Uh thats not very fair? A Muslim mans guide is the Prophet peace be upon him. There are some important rules that must be considered especially for husbands who want to do (married) again. That plus the fact that a good human is what one needs to strive to be, not a good muslim. and dont let someone walk over you. And trust me, if your husband must choose between divorcing you before he takes a second wife. Sex hormones are released in the adult body every day. but my husband love me also, he told me that he will not leave me. Oh well, baby steps. If I love an older man but he is already married is it allowed for me to marry him, My name is Ayesha.. 8. subhan ALLAH. May I point out that marriage is very hard experience for both parties. Although I have watched horrible videos in the past, I try not to anymore. However sex is the biggest right of man in marriage. Some points made in this article are good,but that does not justify being sexist!All men think about having another wife? I need my wife to take care of me as mentioned. P.S Please keep open minds, do not try to scare one another with threats of you nearly left islam with your words. He Wants To Have Sex More Often I wish people didnt have to deal with such unfair treatment in relationships. Let us now analyse why Islam allows a man to have more than one wife. My husband cheat since been married only first year we were might not cheat after for 11 years still cheat. In the vast majority, the person either gets married or performs illicit sex or indulges in other sexual perversions. He is weak in Taqwa. I will not stand for it! Germany has five million more females as compared to males. (i.e., Ramadaan) and guards her chastity and obeys her husband, it will be None of us see what you have to deal with or how much effort youve put into your relationship, but Allah sees it all and hell reward you accordingly inshaAllah. Things Ur Muslim Wife May Not Tell U. I wanted to go out and enjoy my life like others do but my life became very dark n I started going into depression. But not when normal conditions exist. Suppose if a wealthy man marries two woman. Allah is watching and the almighty will give you strength and courage. Maybe even noble- of mind in the very least. I typed this up on my phone. I could not accept that and I vehemently made my stance clear to him. No one likes to be preached to.But if you do this right, youll be getting a double reward: The reward that comes with living with a righteous husband. As in one of the hadith below is one of the stories how the Prophet SAW fair to his wives. He fears he will become schizophrenic. I needed to get out, to work and find a place of our own instead of living off the leftovers of others. My husband married his brother's wife. If this evil practice is stopped, then India too will have more females as compared to males. Bukhari and Muslim Surely if you love your wife you do not do that. Does their feelings dont count anymore? neglect of their children. Ds my true life I am leaving with Allahs mercy. I am shocked by this backward/baseless thinking. Clearly, your husband did a harmful, immature, and unhealthy thing. ITS THE HOLY QURAN SO ITS ALLAH WORDS THAT WE R TO OBEY CLEARLY ALLAH KNOWNS ALL THINGS TO B TRUE . One fills in what the other lacks. Thank you SO much. 4) Your wife doesnt want the stupid car, expensive phone, or giant diamon So permission from his first wife would be SHIRK.Proof Please. Totally agree with this..every single detail by sister Kay, This is how I feel,and how every women feels,thank you for writing it so clearly,I would never stay with my husband if he took a second wife,neve ever in a million years,i would rather live alone, That is the problem you cant live a million,youre doomed and my advice to you is to fear Allah and the last day ,the day your feelings will not be considered. Beat her. very nice.. now all we have to do is FIND ourselves nice husbands worthy of all what u have written in the article above..but to add a point, women are not servants.. they are mans partners.. equal partners in life. The author of the article should revise that fact about multiple marriages and how it say it should be undertaken only due to dire needs (not because He wants to for fun). It would be difficult for my husband to provide for multiple wives, both financially and emotionally. I am a woman in my 30s with 1 child. Not spending time and money for me. Women feel the same way, have a bit of respect. I dont think he likes me or my family. I feel like our private parts are purchased and we are simply paid vaginas that have to be available for sex 100% of the time regardless of our feelings. - muslim1 Jan 3, 2013 at 3:47 1 This is an issue faced not just by women but also by men. There is a reason why the majority of inhabitants in Jahhanam are women. There is no hadith which states that the husband must ask his wives premssion. The cookie is set by the GDPR Cookie Consent plugin and is used to store whether or not user has consented to the use of cookies. Yeah so what if a we chooses to aim higher at least we dont sit on our back sides everyday and live off JSA every week. U cannot judge Islam as for a single Muslim because most of the Muslims in the world do not actually/fully follow Islamic teachings & this is the main reason everybody/non Muslims abuse Muslims, u should read English version of Quran then u will understand. May Allah grant us all taqwa and love and understanding of His deen. Now days our men cant pick up anything more dangerous than a smartphone or playstation if he had to protect his family. Or why is polygamy allowed in Islam? Sometimes you have to be careful in the words you choose when talking about your faith. Is he repeating some move he saw in a movie? Me and my husband is living in foreign.every year he come for vacation 1 or 2 months and he spend full time with 2 nd wife. If a man falls in love with another woman surely it means he never really loved the first? If the conditions for a second marriage are right according to the Shari`ah, he can legally go ahead and marry. i agree with u kay. Another point is that actually polygamy can lift the burden of responsibility the woman have towards their husbands and gives her more freedom. Just because man is ALLOWED to take a second wife, doesnt mean he should. There are no specific hadiths about many things. She is having a hard time, he said, she dont know where the next meal is coming from or how to provide adequately for her children. India has more male population than female due to female foeticide and infanticide. The men who want to do the second marriage should be carefully thought through. husbands doing haraam things than to their marrying another woman in a Allah knows best! How many can do so? I did ask him, dies your wife respect you? Is she loyal to you? you have 2 kids so sex must not be an issue, so why did you cheat? He gives me blatant excuse such as wanting to do something different. There needs to be an article about what men can do for their wives bcz Im sick and tired of reading any more tripe as to how I can better serve a man. Thats another story to many men with second wifes ask them how these wifes came into their lifes haram way or halal see the majority take care sisters truly we are all being tested. I am at the edge of breaking and breaking up with him .. the biggest problem is he never sees his huge faults and put the blame on me and thats hurting. decreed jealousy for women and jihad for men, so whoever bears that with He created man from water (semen), then He made man has offspring and mushaharah (family relationships by marriage) and is the Lord of the Almighty ( Verse 25: 54), The second marriage can be done as long as you do not marry two women at once. It is allowed in Islam and he does not need permission. So stop being childish and open your eyes . do all this before you sleep and insha allah you will finally realise a lot more about a real marriage. Both of you need to brush up on Islamic knowledge and discussions pertaining to polygamy. Because ISLAM is the only perfect way of lifestyle. According to Indian law only Muslim men are permitted to have more than one wife. It will still hard for us before we get used to the Idea! This is what I am afraid of. This has been described in one verse in the Quran., (Forbidden on you) collects (in marriage) two sisters, except what happened in the past: for Allah is Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful. (Verse 4: 23), 17. Well done. I know men desire sex, but theyre men and they should be able to control it and accept that theyre wives sometimes just dont want to do it. May Allah swt guide us all. Your dream is a premonition for a memory and brain power. something haraam. No woman wil b happy readin it n am openly sayin out my opinion coz there aint no hadith or ayat backin d point dat ur husband thinks abt other women. Please advise me. This Ive witnessed in many families. And why would I when I love my wife. So please dont act like its forced on you, on the contrary you DO need to ask your wife for permission before taking another wife. Dont make things harms..where does it say men should ask their wives permission to many another???????? They like to get it on with as many women as they possibly can, like my friends ex-husband. We also use third-party cookies that help us analyze and understand how you use this website. But how different the circumstances. I would rather say dont even feel. We have been married for 18 years. (ITS LIKE HIS SAYING ITS OKAY TO BE A LAZY MUSLIM-WHEN ITS NOT)Brothers should do the utmost best to emulate the life of the prophet and their should be no excuses brothers are too busy lecturing sisters on how to be a good wife when their forgetting about their own individual selves. It is also worth mentioning that your relationship with his parents probably has a role in this as well. not want to and he still goes ahead with it? Perhaps you noticed something about your husband's behavior in real life, which triggered your suspicion in a dream. Below is one of the hadith narrated. There are several other reasons, why Islam has permitted limited polygyny, but it is mainly to protect the modesty of women. Bottom line is this the wife was respectful to him. commitment. You may want to read about Rights of Bride in Islam, Who has two wives then leans to one of the two (unfairly) then he will come on the Day of Judgment in a state next to his side. (Abu Dawud), A man that has an ability of material things and he can be fair to his wives. We married in the Church about a year before our baby was born. (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him). Log in, Join our e-mail list for regular site news and updates, All Rights Reserved for Islam Q&A 1997-2023. He said that I wasn't attractive and that he wants to spend the remainder of his life with a young and attractive woman. I read most of the post over here He wasn't by my side, not even one bit. hello I am reading your article now in 2017. But watching comments & after reading the article Id like to say that SEX is not only the thing keeping marriages prosper & happy life. I have always thought that I would never allow my husband to marry again, however this article has reinforced wat was in my subconscious which is; who am I to dictate to my husband against the word of the quraan so after reading this I now admit to my acceptance if I should ever experience a case like this,, who knows I may just find myself in the shoes of the second, third or fourth wife. I started feeling he only wants few things from me I must be there with him on bed whenever he wants it I must cook food for him I must do all the household things and inreturn he couldnt console me not financially not mentally n not even emotionally. Lastly, make sincere dua that Allah SWT blesses you with someone who will love, respect and be a good role model for you and this is the best outcome inshaAllah. Very good knowledge!! There are certain things that a woman can put on her marriage contract to prohibit the man. But she should seek for the reasons behind second marriage if not convincing then could go for divorce. She will ONLY be cursed if her husband is angry. i`m not able to give my second husband a baby. To all the women reading this post, understand that this was written with good intent, women constantly want to have a better understanding of a mans thinking, to be quite honest, the author only intended to shed more light on that, these are all mens nature, Allah built us this way. To use the same rules for the current century really doesnt make sense. Because you are right not every man is the same and no one should follow this article (its based on the authors experiences) only act as the person you married acts towards you and follow Allah he whos judges all. Dn I am pregnant after my second daughter he kept her in rented house dt women already married n she have 5 year boy baby with first husband she kept relationship with my hubby n after along 5 years she get divorced with 1st husband now she staying with my hubby n she got 1 baby by my hubby. remember allah never brings more to a person they can cope with or carry. quickly it ends. Were not perfect. Ep 32 Diff 11 Jan 23, Inde, 2022, 29 min. A father should be responsible for the life of his children even though he has separated from the mother. this young man and has made him attractive to you so that he may achieve My dear Sisters & Brothers, We will do absolutely good to Our Souls if We desist from Extremism. For shame! I have a problem maybe you can help.hubby n I have been married since 4years.we were really happy. Rather, He commands that they dwell with each other in tranquility and be a garment for one another. Now move from in front of the television and go make me a sandwich. 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